6 Ways to Get Back Up

Recently, I experienced a bit of a setback, a personal loss that left me very sad. During my time of ‘recovery’, I was interested to observe the beliefs and behaviours I adopted to get back up and I wanted to share them with you:

  1. Just do something. At times I found myself paralysed into inaction, not sure what to do. So, I just did something. Anything. Sometimes it was a matter of picking up the phone and calling someone, either work or personal. Or putting on my trainers and going for a walk, or doing yoga. Listening to an inspiring podcast or music. Just something. This momentum moved me to the next thing. And the next. And before I knew it, I was no longer paralysed, but moving onward and upward. ‘A journey of 1,000 miles begins with a single step’.
  2. Admit Weakness and ask for help. This was a hard one. Just letting people know I was finding it hard to cope was difficult for me to do, as I wanted to be strong. Strong for me and strong for others. I was amazed with the response and support I received, and it was refreshing to be totally honest with people around me about what I was going through. We don’t have to be strong and perfect all the time.
  3. Focus on what is important. I have my goals written down, and during this time, I made an extra effort to read them several times a day, looking forward to the future. It reminded me of what is important to me. Focusing on the future makes it hard to dwell in the past. It’s hard to be down with so many exciting things to look forward to!
  4. Push yourself. I was told once that successful people do the things that others don’t want to do. So, during this time, I pushed myself to go to networking events, social events and connected with others. I connected with some new people that gave me such a buzz, it was difficult to be sad and sorry for myself. There was even a new business opportunity there, how good is that?
  5. Focus on others. I didn’t stop coaching. I didn’t stop running workshops and trainings. I used this opportunity to switch the focus completely from me and what I was going through totally to others and how I could help them. This allowed me to serve others even more completely.
  6. Be grateful. This was also a time to remind myself to be grateful for my health, my friends, my family, the list goes on. ‘Yesterday is History, Tomorrow a Mystery, Today is a Gift, That’s why it’s called the Present’. Alice Morse Earle. Sage words indeed

What have you done to get yourself out of a rut? What can you do right now to be even better?